That’s the maddening magic of words, and that’s why artists continue to be drawn to them: words are slippery, they refuse to be fixed, they tell stories that are open to infinite readings.
To be ideally creative, Woolf writes, is to transcend the limitations of gender roles, then to transcend dwelling on having left those limitations behind—to inhabit one’s own moment-to-moment spiritual amalgam of male and female un-self-consciously. To be, as gender theorist Kate Bornstein suggests, a woman who swaggers, or a man who knits, without approaching the swaggering or the knitting as if one had anything to prove, but as integral parts of one’s identity, “spiritually cooperating” with all the other parts.
Right, I’m off.
Mum’s first surgery is today. All going well, her second (and final) one will be in a week and a half.
If you’re the sending-light or praying sort, she would greatly appreciate the good thoughts! She’s only ever had one surgery in her life, poor robust lamb, and she’s very nervous.
I might be lurking around Tumblr late tonight after we get home, but to those whom I owe messages, I will get back to you tomorrow. Thank you so much for the kind words and support from all corners — you are all gentlepeople and stupendous human beings.
if you ever feel like spiders are fearless, unstoppable death machines that are bent upon your destruction please remember that my tarantula has been sitting, inconsolable, with her knees tucked around her face, for the past 20 minutes solely because she stepped on her own foot
she literally scared herself with her own fucking foot like what do i even do about that
what if the new animal species we discover each year are actually being dropped off by aliens? like they have an over abundance of yeti crabs or something and so they brought some to earth because they knew we’d get a kick out of this
This is the cutest conspiracy theory I’ve ever heard
John Scalzi gets it.
This is what I have been trying to say in so many words—all men aren’t menaces to women, but all women have been menaced by men.
I think that is an important distinction to make. However, I do feel like it shifts the focus away from the men who are doing the thing a bit, and panders more to the whiny men who “aren’t like that!!!” more than necessary.
Regardless, I am so glad to see another guy taking a stand about this shit.
Oh it is total pandering to those ass-butts. But It’s the first thing you have to do is confront that bullshit. You have to have an answer for it. I got into a LONG fight with someone on Facebook about that very thing. I lumped all men into the “can’t be trusted until proven otherwise” category and got shit upon shit for it. From a gay man. I’m like wtf, man.